My dog Daisy ran off when someone lit off some Thanksgiving fireworks. I know right? She was lost for over two weeks but has since returned. I wanted to share what had happened and what I experienced through this time of being without my dog. I was amazed at how helpful everyone was and the outpouring of heart energy from everyone who heard about her being lost. I feel truly blessed to know so many great people and to see all those animal lovers in the world. I really saw a lot of heart around me.

I really appreciate how my brother Michael and his wife Christina were there for me. I have a hard time asking for help and they showed up in a big way making it much easier. They did an awesome job on the internet looking for her and helping with flyers! I had so much apathy to work through to do all the things I knew needed to happen at a material level such as posting on various places on the web, putting up flyers, contacting shelters, driving around all over one of the largest housing developments in the U.S. calling her name and squeaking her dog toy. I had to let go of being embarrassed or wanting to hide from new people. I had to engage and ask. When all that was carried out a number of times some part of me must have felt free to move to the next level.

That next level was extremely powerful. Many people were praying and communicating with Daisy. I witnessed a few people look at daisy’s picture and say “Come home Daisy”. This was powerful, it helped me remember I can do that. I can communicate in that way especially when looking at someone’s picture.

There is an ability that we all have to tune into the energy and frequency of another being by simply intending to do so and then focusing. Belief makes it stronger and confirmation will arrive with patience. It happens all the time but most people dismiss it. Thinking of someone then they text or call. Were you thinking of them or were they thinking of you? Truth is it doesn’t matter. It is the same.

The night before Daisy came back. The sadness hit me a different way that night. I let go and felt a clarity and a knowing that I was finally fully ready for her to come home. It was like a window beyond all my indecisive cognitive and emotional interference about the situation. I made a decision on how to move forward when she can home. I looked at her picture and tuned into her energy. I told her, “I miss you and want you to come home. I don’t know where you are. I didn’t leave you with those people and won’t be able to come get you. You are going to have to find your way back”. I had to really feel through the pain and sadness to a place of genuine connection with her own energy signature.

Then the next day she just showed up back at my brother’s place where she had run off from. When she got back, she was very tired and hungry. She must have been getting food from somewhere because she is not as thin as you might expect after being gone for over two weeks. There is a large cut on her leg which opened up exposing a lot of flesh but she took good care of it herself. The vet said it is about a week old and it is best to let it continue to heal on its own.

I am so happy she is back. She has been with me for almost 8 years now. We have lived in Arizona, Washington and now Hawaii together. She has melted the hearts of everyone she meets. I have never seen a dog that so many people love. I have had people who say they don’t even like dogs fall in love with her and actually let her come in their house.

Thank you for reading and for all the assistance at every level in helping her get back home.

Much Love,



Come Home to Your Heart


“Come home to your heart” This is the message that was given to me recently by a beloved ancestor who had passed on a while ago. With that I find myself in Love alone.

No one is really alone but that statement is related to something I am literally sitting with lately, Love. This is a deep Love for someone that turns to pain when I leave my heart space feeling. I go into my head and feel the need to have this person close to me and this creates pain and frustration not because it is a totally unobtainable feat but because being with them his not healthy for me or them at this time.

There is nothing wrong with them merely that our pain rubs up against each other making things volatile and explosive. I can sometimes go into anger at this. There was so much potential and connection between us. Since it didn’t work out I want to blame them for this longing and pain but that is just my mind falling back on a harmful and destructive protection mechanism.

I see this dynamic played out tragically all over the world since the beginning of time. How love can turn to darkness and pain and in extreme cases some very destructive suffering of others on a mass scale.

Is Love everything? Perhaps it is. I believe many of the horrible things in the world are done from a distortion of love. A longing for something that already exists as a feeling but it is pushed into control and ownership for safety. When this isn’t obtained in that mental realm it is often the cause of some ugly behavior.

Like the Buddhist say there is a need to let go and allow. That attachment is the root of all suffering. It is all mind stuff.I am seeing more and more what they mean as my journey unfolds.

We all have pain we carry and we all have developed ways to deal with that. These coping mechanisms do not always mesh well with others. Especially if our partner or loved one has a similar pain or they use a defense mechanism that triggers the other person’s past issues with a parent/significant figure in their life. So many of us are operating from a wounded child place because that is when we developed the tool. It is subconscious and rarely noticed by the individual but obvious to all around them.

Many of us are actively working to correct that in therapy, healing, dance, art, groups, and meditation just to name a few. For me it is a struggle I have put a great deal of work into and I now help others on this brave path. I have yet to fully heal myself if that is even possible but I really strive to use my tools and stay disciplined in being the person I want to be in the world.

What I am realizing is that Love is the ability to feel deeply vulnerable while not trying to control or own any external representation of it in order to alleviate that unbounded vulnerability. Fear of that vulnerability is to fear truly being in a place of Love.

To be vulnerable is to be open and connected to what is and it can feel very raw and painful. My tendency in the past was to want to run away from that “weird” feeling in various forms the strongest of which was to feel sad or angry about what is not in my life in the way I want it to be. I am realizing that the way it is in my life is perfect and if I stay with that vulnerability I can really connect and have love for that person and in turn myself and others I meet. I do not need to be with her in a traditional sense I can appreciate what I have with her and be ok that it is enough. This is how we tear down the walls that have been built to protect our hearts from being hurt.

I could be angry at all the things I didn’t get and how they have just picked up and moved on without me but truthfully I see how grateful I am at what we had and experienced. She is still in my life and I can be there with that interaction as it comes. I would truly be sad without her but maybe even this could be worked on as I progress.

I wonder if we are in Love with the person or just that feeling of Love that is ever present when it is connected to. How the connection to it is usually the result of some external thing but it is there when we go to visit that raw place. I can really feel this Love in my heart right now and I am working to make it my home. I am letting go of all the pain, fighting and blame that used to “protect” me from it when I would run to my head to remove the vulnerability.

From this place I may finally find my healing and the external representation of that in a partner. Well a guy can hope anyway and it is not a bad practice to cultivate.

Thanks for reading.

May you know the power of strong vulnerability and the Love that lives there,


Lack of Communication

This blog is kind of turning into a voyage into the realizations and follies of Jason in his effort to be a better man than simply stories of weird experiences. Perhaps these more recent experiences I have written about in the last couple of posts are the weirdest of all and deify all logic.

Some examples might be the concept of the mirror, that a person can upset me so much because they are doing something I myself do. Would this not be welcome? Am I that irritating? How about the person that feels absolutely justified in their actions that they are hurtful to others? Is this not blatantly obvious to the person?

Well the answer I have found is no. Most people cannot see these things and it takes tremendous effort and an absolute willingness to surrender their ego and protection mechanisms to do it. I am still seeing this in myself on more levels than I ever imagined.

I can catch that exact moment when I am being triggered, or so I think, and still go with it. I sometimes still think it is ok to shoot a person a dirty look based on actions I feel are not appropriate or harmonious for others. The paradox for me is that then I am the bad guy. I am the one who is being rude.

The other guy might have just been an annoying presence but I took it into a possible confrontation. I put out a negative catalyst hoping to change the situation but it will often only bring a feeling of sadness or anger to the person if it is even noticed or acknowledge. At this point it will often become a battle of self-defense and a justification for a certain behavior or position. It is very unlikely to change in any real sense.

The problem I see is that of communication. I am not speaking up about something in a neutral and non-projecting manner. By projection I mean a rigid view of the person, situation, or issue that is really about me and can come out as shaming and blaming towards another (important to note that projections can also be positive).

I seem to still want to hold my need for expression in until it builds volatile energy within me. Then there is much less control in how my want for a specific change is expressed. It is true I could simply take the Buddhist path and let go of any external change needed, which I do to a certain extent very often but that to me can be taken too far to the other end of the spectrum.

At a certain point I feel we all must speak up and share our wants with the world. Many of our deep wants are the same despite all our superficial differences. This is how positive change happens rather than spiritual escapism in labeling much of the harmful things in the world as karma, gods will, or that’s just the way it has always been. A collective dialog needs to take place.

When I can calmly express a want I may not always get it and it may not always be received well but it is out in the open and a possible catalyst for change. I don’t have to unknowingly hold it in until it explodes out or becomes a disease pattern in my body.

An expressed need won’t always get met but when done with the use of tools such as non-violent communication terms and assertive speech it sometimes does.

I have also found and seen in others that when a want is expressed feedback can be given. Sometimes the want is based on a judgment or assumption of what another person is doing or saying. When the other person can calmly communicate back their position without being too defensive genuine communication can be achieved. Both parties are no longer mind reading or misinterpreting the others actions. This is a fine art that few have achieved but I have met a few who give me great hope.

Reality Manipulator
The biggest hindrance I see to open communication is a lack of authenticity and ownership of ones actions. Without honesty a foundation is difficult to establish. So what to do in that situation?

I have yet to figure this one out. I try to just accept what the person tells me as true but then I see indications that it is not. Sometimes it is concrete factual data that they are not being truthful and still the lie or omission of truth is not acknowledged. This is so frustrating to me and makes it to where I don’t even want to engage with the person. I find myself not even really listening to them that closely and working really hard not to make judgments about what they are saying. This really saddens me.

It reminds me of the burden of truth and how so many things can be effectively hidden by not openly acknowledging them. Many lawyers love this. You never admit guilt. This can be seen in extreme examples when a person is caught red handed cheating on their partner and simply says it wasn’t them.

There was a song by Shaggy released in 2000 about that. I thought it was brilliant but also one of the most abusive things a person could do to someone they love. Not the cheating part but to say it didn’t happen, to fully reject the reality that they both shared. She saw it, he did it, but it is a “No. Didn’t happen” I will never admit it type energy.

It is pretty ballsy but unfortunately it would work with some people who are so damaged and desperate to stay with the form of “love” and security they have with that person. This allows the person cheating to get their want filled at the expense of their partner who may accept it on some level in order to stay “comfortable”.

Although I have never experienced the extreme case as presented in the song I have and have had interactions with people who I can’t trust are telling me the truth. After a long hard road of frustration and failed efforts these persons have taught me to accept people as they are and not try to change them.

They are choosing a specific reality that they want to live in. It probably feels safe and so I try to just leave that be and remain neutral.

I have to keep a wall or barrier up with these people who are a part of my life by default. I love and care about them but I feel like we can’t really be fully present with one another. Perhaps this is based on my trust issues and allows me the opportunity to work on this and probably why they are in my life.

Luckily, I can present my wants and they will often acknowledge many of them. The ones they don’t are often related to some part of them that is not yet ready to be vulnerable. This taught me that it is not my place to get others to change so that I am more comfortable.

I think many people, including myself are too invested in how others perceive them that they will not acknowledge certain things. They may even be aware others know these things about them but they still need to hold onto a specific view of self. This is being over identified with the ego. I would describe it as a part that is superficial and covers up genuine human interactions and communication on deeper levels. These identifications are often mental (metal) aberrations that may feel comforting and safe but actually cause suffering in one’s self and others.

To be vulnerable and express deep wants with non-attached outcome expectations and neutral energy while acknowledging the reality and wants of another. All while being aware of my own judgments of situations and personal self-protective comfort needs. Wow what a handful! Luckily, I have many years to continue my work on this and probably a couple more lifetimes after this one.

May you always express your wants in a healthy compassionate way,